“Self-care” is now really out there as a thing.

“What the hell is it?!? Because if it’s one more thing to do or not do, I really would rather not,” one patient of mine said.

One way to understand self-care is that we matter.

How we think, feel, live and act matters. It matters for our survival and it matters to the people we love and the people around us. It also matters to our experience of being alive.

Actually, generally, we are often not that good at either realizing this… or doing something about it.

Talking and engaging in “self-care” seems to be a way we are trying to wake ourselves and others up.

An act of selfishness (not the kind we worry will exclude others), it is the humane, steady and important attention we need and deserve to include ourselves.

These could all be considered acts of self-care:

Basic trust, saving money, a new perspective, working your body, telling the truth, sleep, finding beauty, laughing, taking medicine, forgiving, your real sneeze, going home, eating fresh food, positive thoughts, letting yourself dream, cleaning, risking, playing music, standing for something, getting help, travel, crying, staying quiet, feeling the sun’s warmth, physical comfort, doing what you say, curling up, being rigorous, listening, letting go, knowing love, saying┬áNO, saying YES…

What are your unique acts of care?

Whatever your life circumstances, everyday self-care choices are available.