“Self-care” is now out there as a thing.

It might sound mysterious or weird or like it probably has nothing to do with you or it sounds like it has to do with you, but you don’t know what or who you would ask. You might read about it and think there’s more to do or consider or try when you already definitely do not want or need one more thing to

One way to understand what this term means is that the we matter.

How we think, feel, live and act matters. It matters for our most beneficial survival; it matters to the people we love and the people around us and the world. It matters in our felt experience of being alive.

Actually, generally, we are often not that good at either realizing this or doing something about it.

Talking “self-care” seems to be a way we are starting to wake ourselves and others up to what it is to act in our own deep, best self-interest and on our own behalves.

This is an act of selfishness, but not the kind we worry will exclude others. This is the humane, steady and important attention we need and deserve to include ourselves.

These could all be considered acts of self-care:

basic trust, saving money, a new perspective, working your body, telling the truth, sleep, finding beauty, laughing, medicine, forgiving, your real sneeze, eating, positive thoughts, play, letting yourself dream, cleaning, risking, music, standing for yourself, getting help, playing, crying, staying quiet, sunbathing, physical comfort, doing what you say, curling up, being rigorous, watching the fireworks, letting go, knowing love, saying┬áNO, saying YES…

Whatever your life circumstances, everyday mental health choices are truly available.